40 - I’m Smart, So Why Do I Feel So Stuck? (What I Wish I Knew Sooner)

You’re smart. Successful. Switched on.

So how did you end up here, silently carrying the emotional weight of your partner’s addiction, second-guessing yourself by the hour, and quietly asking: How could I not have seen this? And why can’t I work out what to do?! 

In this deeply honest episode, Amanda unpacks the surprising way intelligence can work against you when addiction enters your home. Drawing from Adam Grant’s Think Again, she shares the thinking traps smart women fall into, and how your logic, self-reliance, and outdated belief systems might be the very things keeping you stuck.

You’ll walk away with:

A powerful reframe of the “Preacher, Prosecutor, Scientist” mindsets

A mirror to your own self-talk (“I should be able to figure this out…”)

Practical ways to think again and move toward what will help (Taking from Adam Grants book, Think Again)

Why you don’t need more books or research - you need self trust, breathing room, and backup

A gentle but bold invitation to stop doing this alone

Whether you’ve been Googling “What does alcoholism look like?”, “Am I enabling?” or just wondering how your brainy self ended up in this emotional storm… you’ll feel seen, supported, and a hug of support about what to stop (more research!) and what to start.

For spouses and loved ones who are looking for resources and support:

Upcoming workshop:

Three Essential Steps to support your Loved one in addiction or recovery (Without losing yourself in the process)

Happening on June 19th and June 20th (depending on where you are in the world)

Register to get the replay in your inbox

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If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

📝 Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

Your peace matters. And you’re closer than you think.

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