140 This Is Why Your Relationship Feels Unsafe

Author: David Bayer
Published: Mon 19 May 2025
Episode Link: https://davidbayer.com/podcast/episode-140/

In this episode of "A Changed Mind", our host, David Bayer, explores the complexities of romantic relationships, delving into why love often brings pain. He unpacks generational trauma patterns affecting both men and women, explaining how these manifest in modern partnerships. David introduces the concept of "soul contracts" and discusses how relationships can be portals for personal healing.

David offers practical advice for breaking negative cycles, including taking radical responsibility and creating a loving presence.

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What We Explored This Episode

5:07 Soul contracts and the purpose of relationships

10:14 Women's core wounds and relationship dynamics

14:19 Men's existential fears and relationship struggles

18:54 Strategies for healing relationship trauma

24:31 Building a practice of loving presence

Memorable Quotes

"Love is what motivates you to actually change and make it work. Many people don't become the greater expression of who they came here to become because they don't understand the game."

"If you want to heal your relationship and allow it to become what it's meant to become, you have to close the back door. There is no way a man can hold that container if simultaneously you're putting the pressure on his back that you're going to leave him."

"Healing happens when you can create a container of loving presence and actually allow your partner to be the trauma that they've been without reacting to it. That's what real love is. That's what real power is - the ability to not react when our partner is reacting."